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Feel Like You're The Only One Who Can't Keep His Shit Together? You're NOT.
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INTRODUCING…
A live, 3-day bootcamp to help you change how you react without sacrificing who you are.
You want to be less reactive AND still be heard (without becoming a pushover)
Only problem is…You haven’t been shown how.
Which one hits the hardest?
PROBLEM N° 1
"WTF? Why do I end up apologizing when it's the other person's mistake?"
The way you went about saying what bothered you, or reacting when it happened, ended up hurting, offending or devaluing them. Now you’re apologizing and your original complaint will go unaddressed, fueling this bullshit, lonely cycle.
PROBLEM N° 2
You’ve lost or are at risk of losing jobs, relationships, and opportunities.
Despite your best efforts, you can’t break free from the patterns and behaviors that have gotten you here. You’re stuck, on the tail of end an ultimatum, and it feels like it's all your fault. Worst part? They don't think they need to change at all.
PROBLEM N° 3
You mostly know how you feel but struggle to express it effectively.
You’re constantly battling different societal, cultural and generational expectations of what it means to be a man in the world today. Feeling like if you hold it in, you’ll be miserable and if you express it, you’ll just get in trouble. No one fucking trained you for this.
It feels like you'd have to change EVERYTHING about yourself ALL AT ONCE which is causing you to...
1.
Ignore what bothers you in order to keep the peace
AND
2.
Withdraw from others while acting like it doesn’t bother you.
And no matter how hard you try to change, you feel discounted, judged and defined by how you’ve reacted in the past. Does this describe you?
Hiya! I'm Davina!
If you haven't met me yet ... I'm a masters-level trained anger management specialist, conflict tolerance coach and mediator. I have the honor of working with men like you every day. While that all sounds rewarding (and it is!), building this business was no easy feat.
In fact, when I first graduated with my masters in forensic psychology in 2015, I had NO idea what I wanted to do with it or how to contain the knee-jerk reactions I was having (seemingly on the daily!). All I did know was practicing traditional therapy just wasn't for me - I needed something more direct and fast-paced.
And in February of 2019, I recognized so many of us (primarily men) weren't taught the basics of how to not only survive, but thrive in our relationships. By June of 2020, I left my 9-5 and finally had a clear vision of where I could be most impactful - that is here, actively seeking out men like you to work with! I have, after all, always witnessed men being deeply discounted in the realm of emotional bandwidth and communication, and found myself especially capable at bridging the gap.
How?
Well, I did all the work you're engaging in now. I learned how to control my reactions, express myself without losing myself, and I now feel more powerful and outspoken than I ever was before. I also recognized some impractical expectations that are not only placed on men, but reinforced by them, too (like don't show your feelings but also feel safe to express them!). This is why I've combined my formal training with my real-life, no bullshit approach in this 3-day bootcamp!
If you're going to learn how to control your reactions, you've got to understand how and why it feels like they're currently controlling you.
It doesn't matter how much you try to "let it go" or act like things aren't bothering you.
Eventually, the reasons you're reacting the way you are will catch up and come back - with a vengeance. Nothing gets just "let go". So where does it go? It gets shoved down, saved for later until something "small" sparks it. You carry all this shit with you until something catches you off-guard and you explode "out of nowhere".
Those successful in controlling their reactions, saying what bothers them AND making sure it doesn't hurt others know that in order to do so effectively, you need to have these three I's in place:
- Identify what reactions truly are and where they come from
- Inventory how they are affecting you, and
- Invest in tools and strategies to get you on your way to prevention.
Introducing...
Join me for 3 days of direction. Figure out how to rein in even the most intense reactions and get back in the driver's seat of your life.
From What Your Reactions Are Telling You to How to Shut Them Down..
By the end of our time together, you'll have your gameplan locked in and ready to go, so you can finally stop apologizing and start feeling confident in your responses no matter what situation you're in.
Here’s What You’re Getting Inside The Bootcamp:
3 Days of Live Training to Take You From Knee-Jerk Reactions
to Intentional, Controlled Responses.
Each day, I'll be going live inside our Members-Only Facebook group to guide you through the essential steps. I've taken my clinical, psychology-based knowledge paired with a no-bullshit, actionable approach to get you reducing the intensity of your reactions RIGHT NOW. Let me be clear here: this is not your typical "Take deep breaths and count to 10" bootcamp, as if it's really that easy! This is an all-inclusive jumpstart to changing the way you act when things piss you off.
Day 1: Identify What Reactions Really Are
One of the biggest mistakes we can make is trying to fix something we don't understand. It sets us up for failure after the Honeymoon phase wears off. You aren't someone who puts effort in just to be worse off after, are you? I definitely don't think so.
On Day 1, we're going to get crystal clear on WHAT reactions actually are and WHY they feel so immediate and automatic.
Day 1
1.1: Understanding Your Reactions
1.2: How Reactions Benefit Us (& How They Don't)
1.3: What is Mine, Yours & Ours (To Change, Control, Expect From)
1.4: How Society & Other Influences Perpetuate The "Repress-Injure-Repair" Model In Men
Day 2: Inventory How Reactions Affect You
There are so many reasons why you react differently than others do. In this training, we're going to do some serious inventory about WHAT your reactions may be telling you and WHY they present the way they do.
Let's make sure you're leading the way, rather than letting someone else tell you about you.
Day 2
2.1: How Concepts From Day 1 Present In Your Life
2.2: What Your Reactions Are Telling *You*
2.3: Who & What Triggers Us Most (& Why)
2.4: Taking Accountability - Why We View This As Losing
Day 3: Invest In What To Do With Your Reactions
Now that you know the what, why and where of your reactions, it's time to nail down some strategies so you can INVEST in this upgraded version of you.
In Training 3, we'll discuss reasons why you haven't been able to change and set some realistic goals for yourself. We'll learn how to ditch the patterns we've all gotten so used to (even though they don't help us at all) AND how to tell if it's working.
Day 3
3.1: How This Is Different Than What You've Tried Already
3.2: How To Determine Where To Focus Your Energy
3.3: What Your Body Is Telling You & How To Buy Yourself Some Time Once It Speaks
3.4: How To Set Realistic Goals For Reducing Reactivity
Who Doesn't Love Free Shit? Over $2k of Additional
Bonuses, Including ...
Trigger Hacks - Quick Tips for Cooling Down ($397 Value)
You’ve already heard to take deep breaths, “walk it off” and count to 10. Here are some actual things you can do to calm the fuck down faster (and you can even pair these with the typical advice you’re tired of hearing).
MindFucks - Harmful Things We Tell Ourselves & What to Say to Shut Them Down ($397 Value)
Our brains are constantly assessing for threats, AKA the “negative”. What’s meant to help keep us vigilant in preserving our safety now just mind fucks us into viewing others (and ourselves) more poorly, leading to a lack of benefit of the doubt all around.
What Chaps Your Ass? Common Causes for Reactions ($397 Value)
Here’s a list of 100+ things that typically drive people nuts, which leads to us being more reactive. Just check off which ones bug you, add them up and see how chapped your ass is capable of being every day.
Track Your Baseline: Morning & Evening Inventory ($297 Value)
There are so many reasons for how and why we feel the way we do. Do you ever wake up in a "fire-breathing, burn the MF world down" mood? And other days more of a “ok, guys, let’s just find some common ground” mood? Track the shit out of it and you’ll notice patterns - more importantly, though, you’ll start and end each day knowing how you’re actually feeling. Your general mood is going to make it easier or harder for you to lose your shit.
Meet Your Match: What emotions match with what behaviors + List of most common “buckets” reactivity presents within ($397 Value)
We are wired to feel every emotion, like it or not, fight it or not, we’re stuck with this brain. SO, you can choose to work with it or against it and that choice is entirely yours. Let’s learn more about them and figure out how we’re actually fucking feeling so we don’t react poorly to the person who doesn’t deserve it. Having feelings doesn’t make you a pussy just like pretending you don’t have feelings doesn’t make you “alpha” - that (gently) makes you full of shit.
Super Bonus: Private Reaction Run-Through With Davina ($297 Value)
Let's chat 1:1 so I can learn more about you and help you get where you're wanting to go. We'll discuss which parts hit the hardest and next steps needed to take control your reactions for good.
Get the step-by-step training to control
your reactions for just $37!
When you sign up for the Control Your Reactions Bootcamp, you'll get ...
- Day 1: Initiate - Saturday, November 5th @ 10am PST / 1pm EST (60 min)
- Day 2: Inventory - Sunday, November 6th @ 10am PST / 1pm EST (60 min)
- Day 3: Invest - Monday, November 7th @ 10am PST / 1pm EST (60 min)
- Trigger Hacks - Quick Tips for Cooling Down
- MindFucks - Harmful Things We Tell Ourselves & What to Say to Shut Them Down
- What Chaps Your Ass? Common Causes for Reactions
- Track Your Baseline: Morning & Evening Inventory
- Meet Your Match: What emotions match with what behaviors + List of most common “buckets” reactivity presents within
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Super Bonus: Reaction Run Through 1:1 Session
And in case you need an extra (gentle) push to invest in yourself... here's my guarantee:
I take your investment seriously and back that up with my 100% guarantee that you will love this bootcamp.
If, after the end of Day 1, you feel like you haven't gotten any benefit, I will happily refund your investment in full. All you have to do is email me by 11:59pm EST on Day 1 for a full refund. My only (no obligation) request is to share with me ways you think I could improve my bootcamp for future participants.
Sound fair?
What if I can’t make it live?
Not a worry! Your ticket comes with access to the call recordings for the lifetime of the program, so you can watch whenever is best for you. However, I’ll be jamming out and answering questions live, so I HIGHLY recommend you show up and make the time! If you don’t prioritize yourself now, when will you?
Where is this bootcamp happening?
It's all going down inside my pop-up Facebook group! Each day's training will be streamed into the group so you can tune in live or watch the replays. Don't forget you also get access to the replays for the lifetime of the group!
Will this really help me reduce how intense my reactions are? What about the frequency?
While it can't and won't reduce your reactions ENTIRELY, by frequency or intensity, (run for the MF hills if any program says theirs will!), it is absolutely within reach to apply these concepts to your day-to-day for a noticeable reduction.
The thing is, this is not a silver bullet and true behavioral change takes time, practice, knowledge and commitment. I also can't make these changes for you - this is a massive first step of many and I'm here to guide you to the next level.
Is this therapy?
Noooo! Not at all and I don't position it as such. This is an educational, skills-based bootcamp for those who recognize we can't change what we don't understand. The concepts are rooted in psychology, for sure, but not intended to be utilized for any type of deep-rooted mental health or healing process.
Is there a money back guarantee?
Absolutely! If after the first day's training you don't find that you benefited from learning what I shared, email me by 11:59pm EST the night of Day 1 and I'll refund you entirely!
If it's so valuable, why is it priced so low?
I mean... you're right! While it smells like a trap, sounds like a trap and feels like a trap - it's NOT! Doing the work to manage our reactions can not only be intimidating, it is also quite costly.
I created this bootcamp so everyone (no matter their situation) can have access to quality, affordable information, skills and tools at their fingertips. This in no way is positioned to be an exhaustive program in this realm - it's purely an impactful jumpstart to your journey.
Your behavioral guidelines are pretty intense. Why is that?
Being a woman in this field opens me up to criticisms and judgments. While I welcome feedback in a professional capacity, I'm blocking dick pics, sexts and sexual-favors-in-exchange-for-money proposals often enough to explicitly state this boundary.
While these guidelines are a "no shit" expectation for the vast majority of men, others attempt to override it. So, I set my non-negotiables up front to mitigate experiences that distraction from our goals here.
If you’ve made it here…then it’s time to decide, friend.
Here's the truth: nothing changes if nothing changes.
If you're finally sick of your own shit...
If staying the same feels worse than trying something new...
If you're at risk of losing anything you love based on your reactions or reactive behaviors...
Then, face value? You're doing yourself a disservice if you're not in this bootcamp.
Because relying purely on self-control, guilt, shame and shoving shit down is a surefire way to be and feel defeated. And you deserve better than that.
So.. you in?
WONDERING IF THIS REALLY WORKS?
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